ACCEPTING NEW CHALLENGES
By Lalai Manjikian

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March 7, 2010

Much has been written about the connection between women and the
nation over the course of world history. Symbols, words, and suggestive
imagery have been used to equate women to territory, a nation’s future,
and to other noble national ideals.

Not surprisingly, the woman figure has been adopted by Armenians as
well, to express certain core ideals that remain tightly intertwined
with Armenian cultural identity and nationalistic values. Terms such
as mother tongue (mayrenee lezou), mother Armenia (mayr Hayasdan),
and mother church (mayr yegeghetsi) are omnipresent in the Armenian
lexicon. Coincidentally, such elements are deemed to be the pillars
of Armenian existence and survival, namely throughout the diaspora.

As much as this personification of language, land, and church as
woman is flattering, it is also intriguing, given that patriarchal
structures and hierarchies are known to dominate the Armenian political
and religious landscape.

As Armenian women continue to increase their visibility within various
Armenian and non-Armenian spheres, a community organization where women
have always occupied a strong presence is the century-old organization
known as the Armenian Relief Society (ARS). It allows for women to
evolve as humans, as women, as citizens, and as Armenians amid the seas
of dispersal that we navigate. The ARS continues to be an efficient,
inspiring, and even fun organization, acting as the socially conscious
nerve in many of our diasporic communities. Run and maintained by
highly motivated and determined women, the ARS serves as a model for
Armenian women. Furthermore, it constantly strives to propel Armenian
women forward, to new heights both in Armenia and throughout the
diaspora, while reaching out to non-Armenian communities in need.

When I watch the ARS at work, it reinforces the notion in me that women
are proactive by nature. I feel that we come from a lineage of strong
women-from Sose Mayrig’s infallible model, Zabel Yessayan’s avant-garde
ideas, and Carla Garabedian’s audacious realizations, to our own
mothers, sisters, grandmothers, great aunts, and female friends.

Undoubtedly, the Armenian woman is a central figure in the nation’s
perpetuity, particularly throughout the diapsora.

With the threat of annihilation long behind us, but the fear of
assimilation forever lingering throughout the diapora, how is the
current role of Armenian women who are members of the diaspora
defined today?

Needless to say, this separation from the homeland has created large
amounts of anxiety throughout the diaspora. For years, the main
concern and challenge for women living in the diaspora has been how
to conserve the "Armenianness" of the family, given the reality of
living miles away from Mother Armenia’s protective shield and sword.

Given the above-mentioned links between women, national and cultural
values, as well as the numerous challenges that being a woman entails,
how do Armenian women embody the noble burden of their nation’s
survival? And if they do, how do they articulate it? Surely the
associations between woman and nation are still at the foundation of
our diasporic existence, but are they as rigid as they once were? Is a
woman’s central role within the diaspora being challenged by various
personal choices, or simply by virtue of finding ourselves in the
midst of endless cultural influences? Either way, perhaps we should
refresh our viewpoints and consider flexible notions of identity,
nationalism, and cultural values that reflect our diasporic realities
more adequately.

Regardless of the old or newer guard surrounding ideas of woman and
nation, I view women to be an important part of the driving force that
has sustained the diaspora’s existence. Following the catastrophic
rupture created by the genocide, Armenian women played an instrumental
role in the public, domestic, and educational spheres, in efforts to
re-build, re-organize, and re-populate.

Besides the obvious biological reasons that contribute to this
continuity, the vital traditions and values prominent both in the
public and private spheres and embedded in our collective identity
are transmitted from generation to generation through women. Armenian
mothers have been and will continue to be the carriers and transmitters
of Armenian ideals, however one chooses to define those ideals.

I often wonder if Armenian women embody such responsibilities
consciously or instinctively. Perhaps both. Whether instinctive or
conscious, I find this process of birth and transmission on behalf
of women so vital, given the sense of internalized loss many of us
in the diaspora still carry.

Needless to say, each woman has a unique life trajectory and therefore
experiences cannot be generalized. Surely not all women feel this
way or have simply made other decisions, leaving them outside of the
normative heterosexuality and nation-building molds I describe above.

Even if they fall into the mold in some ways, a number of Armenian
women also choose to take other positions pertaining to cultural,
religious, and lifestyle decisions-adding color, texture, and dimension
to our already eclectic collection of beads.

Regardless of whether one does or does not fit in such molds, the
bottom line is that many Armenian young women in the diaspora are left
feeling conflicted. With access to the entire world wide open, often a
clash of cultures, values, religions, and races occur. The challenge
is to remain open and flexible enough to engage as cosmopolitan
world-citizens while remaining true to the values that have been
transmitted, have been salvaged and blossomed against all odds,
despite the attempt to yank out the root permanently.

As members of the diaspora, perhaps compensating for the loss is
making amends with the new, and at times, the unknown. This just may
be the real challenge we all face.