Many in Yerevan have stories about friends — or themselves — who got detained over nothing, or were paid a visit by the police or the Russian Federal Security Service (FSB). The gap between them and some of their Ukrainian friends nonetheless grew wider with time. Some are advocates of banning Russian nationals from international competitions and gatherings like cultural events, and think defectors should take more risk and protest more forcefully in Russia.

“Maybe the Ukrainian government will let me in when the war is over, and give me citizenship, because my country betrayed me,” hopes Sergeev. But he concedes that not all Ukrainians may welcome him.

Russians’ family ties are also strained thanks to clashes with their parents and grandparents, who only watch official Russian propaganda channels.

Sergey, a 23-year-old who does not wish to be identified, is now in Yerevan after the U.S.-based IT company he is working for asked its employees to relocate. While some of his colleagues are indifferent to the invasion of Ukraine, he is critical of Vladimir Putin.

“My family calls me the ‘national traitor’. Half-jokingly, but I know they mean it in part,” he says.

He reads independent websites, unlike his family. “I try to show my mom what’s really going on in Ukraine, but the sites are blocked by Russia and she won’t install a VPN,” he says. She thinks he is a victim of “Western propaganda.”

But the tensions could be worse, and his parents were sad when he left. “I’m still a member of the family,” he says. “But for me, emotionally, it would be easier if they didn’t love me and rejected me.”

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